The following quote by J. Alan Peterson really blesses me. It reminds me that my marriage is only as good as what I put into it. It is more blessed to give than to receive, and this is particularly true in marriage. Thank you for such good advice Mr. Peterson. 


Most people come into marriage believing it is a box full of goodies from which we extract all we need to make us happy. Marriage is an empty box. There is nothing in it. It is an opportunity to put something in, to do something for marriage.

Marriage was never intended to do something for anybody. People are expected to do something for marriage. If you do not put into the box more than you take out, it becomes empty. Love isn't in marriage, it is in people, and people put it into marriage. Romance, consideration, and generosity in marriage, are in people, and people put them into the marriage box. Living for each other, releases both of you to relax and work together productively to keep the box full.